“We’d do a whole scene, but it is a lot to take in. The first step is to know what is expected, what the toys are, and how one is able to respond to them. A wonderful Dom will know how far to take it, what buttons to push, and when to back off. A submissive needs to know how to communicate with her Dom at all times. It’s not just about pleasure or pain. It’s about becoming someone who can release each other’s stresses, and helping one another be one together,” Kalebsaid.
“The aftercare is important, and Elijah knows that. That is the time to make sure there are no lasting marks and to make sure to rub or put salve on any tender spots. It also gives the sub time to come back to earth in her own time, so as not to be rushed. Sometimes it takes longer than others. It all depends on what the scene is, and how much pleasure and pain was brought on,” Kaleb wenton.
Kaleb then went on to explain some of the other items in the playroom, like the spanking bench and the St. Andrew’s Cross, and what roles they could be usedfor.
“The items for pain can also be used for pleasure, and vice versa. Some Doms may deny the pleasure of coming, or may prolong it, for more pleasure, I know Kelly loves when I do this on occasion.” Kaleb went on. “Sometimes Doms will not allow a sub to come as a form of punishment, but it is wonderful when one finally can, after a few days of beingdenied.”
“The Dom is not the one that holds all the control. The sub also holds a great amount of control by what we communicate to ourDoms.”
They both left shortly afterward, and Dawn was deep in thought. She went straight to my office, where I gave her the beginner’s book into my lifestyle. I printed off a contract, telling her to use whatever she needed to learn about the things included. She was welcome to use any of the books, the internet, or even coming to either Kaleb, Kelly or myself with anyquestions.
I took off all my hard limits, since there was no way I would even let her considerthem.
