“I do Instagram because our team makes us. You know what I like about you? That you’ve never been to Coachella and the only thing you Instagram is art.”
“You were looking at my Instagram?”
“Maybe…” He smiled, coy. “I’m thinking about taking a page out of your book and segueing into artsy photos.”
I laughed. “What? No more body parts? No more ‘Hayes, can I sit on your big toe?’”
He shuddered. “That’s really… I don’t quite have the words for what that is. Sometimes our fandom scares me.”
“Yes,” I said. “Me, too.”
I awoke the next morning to a phone vibrating. The shades were drawn and I could not determine the time, but it felt early. Too early for the phone. After numerous rings, Hayes answered, annoyed. There was a pause and then he bolted upright.
“No. Fucking. Way.”
“What happened?”
He looked to me, eyes wide. His hair was unruly and his voice croaked, but his smile was glorious. “It appears I’ve been nominated for a Grammy.”
August Moon was in the running for Best Pop Duo/Group Performance for their song “Seven Minutes.” The ballad, which Hayes alone had written with one of their producers, was also up for Song of the Year. It was, in every way, a big deal.
We dined at the Bazaar at SLS that night with Lulit, Matt, our artist Anya Pashkov, and Dawn and Karl Von Donnersmarck, a couple of New York collectors. The mood was decidedly festive.
“Your life, Hayes, will be even crazier if you win?” Lulit said over cocktails, her pitch rising at the end. As if at the last moment she’d decided to make it a question.
“Oh, we won’t win. Boy bands don’t win Grammys. This alone is huge. I’m rather chuffed.” He beamed. “It might earn us a bit more respect. But still, we are pretty much at the bottom of any respectability charts.”
Dawn laughed loudly, raising her glass. “I love that you’re so good-humored about it. And you, Anya, kudos to you.”
Artnet had posted a favorable write-up on Anya’s installation that morning.Invisiblewas a conceptual video exploring how women of a certain age cease to be seen. How society sweeps them under a rug, ignores them, discards them once past their prime. She’d curated a series of portraits of women middle-aged and older, spliced with media images and common advertising tropes, and layered a soundtrack above of real women speaking about their experiences, their fears, their insecurities. It was painfully, brutally honest.
“My friends and I discuss this all the time. It’s like you cease to exist,” Dawn continued. Dawn was a patrician blonde, New York born and bred. Tall, capable. If she was older than me, it was not by much. “How many times do you find yourself in a room or at a party and you’re thinking, ‘Am I here? Can anyone see me? Hello!’”
Karl, quiet, bookish, wrapped his arm around her, smiling. “I see you, hon.”
“You know what I mean, Karl.” She turned to me then. “Like the guys who typically talk to you on the streets… Not the catcalling construction workers, but the doormen who generally say ‘Good morning’… That just stops. It stops. Do I no longer warrant a ‘Good morning’? There’s something very disturbing about them not even registering you anymore. Likeshit, when did this happen?”
Hayes was holding my hand beneath the table. He squeezed it suddenly, and I looked over to him, wondering what it was he’d readon my face. The uncertainty of it all. The idea that my own invisibility might be around the corner. Around the block. Miles away. But still, inevitable.
“It’s groundbreaking what you’re doing, Anya,” I said.
“Thank you, Solène.” She was sitting across from me, nursing a vodka tonic. Anya’s features were sharp, memorable. Fair skin, black hair, red lips. She had a few years on me, but she seemed to have it figured all out. While I was still reeling from the news about my ex-husband’s pregnant fiancée and trying to hold together a heartbroken teen while bedding her twenty-year-old idol, Anya was taking on the future of womankind.
“We sent out press releases to the women’s magazines in addition to the usual art publications because they’re in a unique position,” I continued. “Sure, some are partly to blame, but they have this opportunity now to kind of turn it on its head. To further the discussion. The fact that we continuously equate beauty and desirability with youth. That we beat ourselves up instead of embracing the inevitable. And these arewomenrunning these magazines. Why do we do this to ourselves?”
“Because we’ve been brainwashed,” Lulit said, sipping her mojito. “But this is the beauty of art, right? We hold up a mirror to ourselves and say, ‘Who the hell have we become?’ That’s what we do.”
I looked to her then, my partner in crime, my best friend. “That’s what we do.”
After dinner, the others decided to head over to Soho House for a party where the Roots’ Questlove was spinning, but Hayes assumed it would be too much of a scene and so we opted out.
“I’m seeing him next week. We’re doingThe Tonight Show,” he said, as if that were a normal thing.
“What a thrilling life you lead.” Dawn smiled. We were standing by the valet, waiting for their Uber. “Well, you two have fun. I’m going to go be invisible at Soho House.”
I laughed at that. “You’re not invisible, Dawn. You’re wearing Dries Van Noten.”
“Ha!” She threw back her blonde head, her punchy floral dress in high relief. “Thank you for noticing! Thank you for seeing me.”
