Her dark eyes held the answer.She was.
“Being submissive doesn’t mean you ever pick up a dishrag,” I explained.“Or a vacuum.Cleaning the house, doing the dishes, making the bed … those aren’t forms of submission.Those are chores.”
“In some of the books I’ve read, a Dom will order a submissive to do those things.”
“And you think the submissive derives pleasure from the actual act of cleaning the house?”
“No?”She stared at me, and I could tell she was thinking it through.
I waited for it to click.
“She derives pleasure from pleasing her Dom,” she mused.“From following his instructions, regardless of what those instructions are, she would get that.To know he was pleased by her actions…” Jamie smiled.“That would be where the pleasure comes from.”
Bingo.She’s a fast learner.
“She wants to give up control to her Dominant,” Cav explained.“She craves his command because it gives her the structure she needs, plus the opportunity to please him.”
“I didn’t think of it that way.”Her eyes shifted back to mine.“So, this is what you learn in the training class?”
I shook my head.“It’s more about safety, reading a Dominant’s intentions, being able to assess the situation, and making sure you’re in it for the right reasons.”
“I won’t learn how to please my Dominant?”she questioned.
“Not by vacuuming the floor, no,” Cav said with a chuckle.
“You will learn how to please him,” I acknowledged.“In a sense.And you’ll learn about the various equipment, the positions, the logistics of it all.But most importantly, you learn how a Dom can fulfill your needs and the difference between submission and abuse.A submissive ultimately holds all the power because without your need to submit, what does a Dominant have?”
“A rag doll,” she said simply, her eyes locked with mine.
“Exactly.That’s not what I’m looking for.”I glanced at Cav.“You?”
“Nope.Prefer my submissives to be a little more interactive.”
“I need to walk in a submissive’s shoes,” she finally said after a few moments of silence.“To see what it feels like.I mean, I understand what you’re saying.It makes sense in my head, but I can’t quite grasp how a submissive would know they hold all the power.”
Cav sighed.I glanced over to see him rolling his eyes.
She was making this too difficult.Too clinical.
“You’re looking at this the wrong way,” Cav said, exasperation in his tone.
“How so?It makes more sense now.”
“No, it doesn’t,” I argued.
“But it’ll make perfect sense once I can go through the motions.”
I locked eyes with Jamie.“If the underlying need to submit, to please your Dominant, is not going to get you anything in return, then it’s a waste of your time and mine.”
“What if we gave her a brief introduction?”Cav suggested.
Not a bad idea.
“That’s a great idea,” Jamie said gleefully.
“I’m not convinced she’s in it for the right reasons,” I told Cav.
“Maybe not,” he agreed.
