Up until that point we had shared custody, 5 minutes away from each other.
So it was abigadjustment. At least it was for me.
He’d exhaled sharply that night as he typed, wondering if he ought to continue. He typically shared the bare minimum with only the occasional vent that he needed to get out of his system and to whom he could share with no one else, but he rarely spilled his guts. At least, he didn’t think he did.If you can’t unburden yourself anonymously, what’s the point?
I could have fought her on it. She needed my approval for the move.
But I had to think of the long-term ramifications.
We had an amicable divorce and I didn’t want to sour the relationship.
And all that really mattered was what was best for our daughter.
It was a big career opportunity for her mom that would guarantee her financial comfort.
Now she goes to a posh school that will look amazing on college applications.
Don’t get me wrong, I fucking hate it.
But she’s not going to be a little girl forever,
and eventually she’ll need her mom more than me.
ChaoticConcertina:At least, that’s what I tell myself to make it bearable.
I hate that she’s so far away, but I get her for a third of the year, all her school breaks.
We talk every day. I’ve become the worst gamer in the world so that we can play together.
I don’t want her slipping away, so that effort is on me to uphold.
It had been cathartic, getting it out, telling someone how he actually felt. Keeping a positive face was absolutely necessary in his daily world, for he never wanted Ruma to get it in her head that he resented her for their situation and didn’t want any of the busy-body neighbors labeling him a deadbeat dad. It had been late at night when he sent the response to Pinky’s question, knowing she wouldn’t read it until morning, but getting it off his chest had felt good, and he had slept well for the first time in weeks that night.
PinksPosies&Pearls:Ugh, that sounds so hard!
Fwiw, I think you’re making the best of a shitty situation.
I mean, obviously I don’t know anything about anything.
But just based on my own childhood, if I would have only had my dad?
When I got my first period? Or the time I had an accident at school
And my stepmom picked me up with a jacket to tie around my waist to hide the blood?
My first break-up? The first time I got stood up?
I might have expired from mortification.
PinksPosies&Pearls:And that’s so dumb!
There are so many single dads out there absolutely rocking it.
And I have no doubt you would have been one of them.
But I get it. Look at it this way:
eventually she’s not going to want to have anything to do with you OR her mom.
