To become your own priority.
To be chosen… by you.
To be your own great love story.
History has proven it time and again:women are unstoppable.
Don't let betrayal define your ending. Let it mark your beginning.
With love,
Cecily
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TheStephieLeigh6For me, it's something I'll never forget. I've moved on, but it left a scar that healed with a jagged edge. So I still feel it.
It didn't hit the way I would have thought. It was what it did to my heart, yes, but my mind. The things it made me think of. The way I knew he must have been texting her while on the couch, just inches from me. With my feet on his lap, me thinking he was texting a friend with that smile on his face. Never questioning it. How did he do that? My mind took me to places it never should have been. Like he must have thought of her while having sex with me. Is that why he preferred it from behind all of a sudden, when he used to like face to face? Knowing he was pretending with me, and being the better version with her. I got his anger and his frustration and she was getting his affection and kindness. It was knowing he picked her over me. After all these years, he fell for her while I was still falling for him.
TheWordEnchantress136My dad left my mom after 26 years of marriage. He walked out on her and their three kids for a 21-year-old who was pregnant. She never got a choice—he just left. It's been many years now, and while our hearts have healed, betrayal like that leaves marks you can't always see. When a man betrays his wife, he also betrays his children. It changes how you see the world—you trust a little less, hesitate a little more. As the child of a cheater, you watch your mother cry. You're torn in two. Respect fades. You learn to tolerate him, but it's never the same. My sisters and I survived because our mom did. Betrayal doesn't just break a heart; it rewrites everything you thought was real—everything you thought you were.
TinaRose16I was married to a military man. I sensed things were changing in our marriage but had no evidence. Just a feeling. It took 5 years for the marriage to finally implode with a romantic card doused with perfume and a g-string I found inside the car. I remember the smell of the perfume and to this day I get sick smelling that brand of perfume. When I confronted the (ex) husband, I remember him talking while I had the items in my hand, he was gaslighting me...something happen to my mind and I remember shoving the underwear in his mouth to shut him up. He left, we divorced and I got full custody of the children. It was a lot of emotional, physical and mental pain for myself and my children. The one thing I kept asking myself was: why wasn't I enough? Why wasn't I worth the effort to be loyal to? What did I not have the other women have?
But years later I realize I was more than enough, I was just trying to get appreciated by someone not able to stand beside me because he knew he was not strong enough to build a future with me. I was basing my value on someone's poor interpretation of love.
Now I'm okay and remarried. I learned cheating is a choice. Being cheated on is not your fault. Sometimes we hang onto the things that hurt us the most realizing there are better things coming on the horizon. I've forgiven the ex. I simply do not care. That to me is the best feeling from heartbreak. The heartbreak has no power over you.
FeralkarmaMy dad was a more prolific cheater than we could imagine as I have 4 half siblings that no one knew about until high school years. This happened about 5 years after my parents divorce was final, due to his infidelity.
I went to a small HS, 50 kids per class max, so when you played other schools in sports, they were equally small. I was a freshman in high school, playing volleyball, and we wereplaying at a school we hadn't played before, from about 1 hour away. Long story short, at the end of the matches myself and a girl from the other team were the MVPs for the night, so the newspaper wanted a picture of us together. The guy stood us by each other and remarked that we could be twins. We looked at each other and it was true, it was like looking in a mirror. And I look just like my father...and so did she. I am 1 month older than her.
And that's how the road to discovering more of his lies began. And I was “daddy's little girl” growing up, he was my person as a kid. So over 20s later it's still hard to remember that dad and then the person he became are the same person.
Anonymoususer236789I'll start by saying I stayed with my husband. He'd been laid off from a job he planned on retiring from, so his self-esteem was in the dumps. So he started sending and receiving nudes and sexting with women, some were mutual friends, women I entertained in my own home, women I introduced to him because I wanted him to be friends with my friends. All of this boosted his confidence. Then he decided that one of his former co-workers was his soulmate. They traded emails, saying how much he wished he was single with no kids so he could divorce me and run away with her. He would take our kids out and ‘run into his friend.’ My kids would later tell me how ‘daddy and his friend’ were funny. It came to a head on my birthday when he left me at home to ‘rescue her’ because she was too drunk to drive home. He was out until 5 the next morning. I would have left him that night if we didn't have kids. He came home and we talked. And talked. I cried, yelled, told him how much I hated how he made me doubt everything about myself. I told him about the emails. How his friends were also sending me emails, saying how I didn't deserve him, how my kids wouldbe better off with her and him as a couple. I almost ended myself twice. But then something changed.
We kept talking, he went to therapy. He cut off all of them. His ‘soulmate’ ended up being a drug user, and would call him while she was stoned/tweaking/whatever, which changed how he saw her. In any case, we're celebrating 21 years happily married (one year unhappily). He earned back my trust but it took a lot. I love him, but sometimes I still wonder what was so wrong with me that this happened.
Anonymoususer221530My boyfriend and I were together for five years. He cheated on me with my sister. I was traveling with some friends, and we came back two days early because one friend got hurt. When we arrived, the first thing I did was go to his house. He didn't answer my calls I was worried. I missed him so much.
His father let me in. I went upstairs and I found him with my sister. They were kissing. She had no shirt. They both said sorry, said it happened only the day before. But I found out they had been together since the night after I left at a party, and all time I was away. He said he missed me, that he was jealous I traveled without him. My sister said she loved me, that it was a mistake. I couldn't forgive him or her, and I lost my family too because she was always the golden child. Now I am happy again. I have a husband, eight years together, and our beautiful children. I never regret not staying with him, not for one second.
Anonymoususer183902My ex cheated on me with two of my friends., one being my best friend. It went on for months, they were meeting behind my back. They were fucking in his car, I wondered why he would never pick me up. My ex best friend’s cousin told me. They had hooked up at her birthday party after I left. It came out and they acted like it was no big deal. They rubbed it in my face for a year before I moved. To this day he stillcheats on his wife with my ex friend...it's disgusting! He cheated when his daughter had cancer. He's a piece of shit!
KeenReader65I'll never forget how I felt the night I discovered that my now ex husband had been not only cheating on me but planning a whole new life with the OW. He had been gone for weeks in Europe “on business” and had seemed more and more cold and emotionally distant. I was busy with our young kids and was used to him traveling a lot so I didn't over think it. When he came back to our home, he went out for a business dinner that same night (having not seen our kids in weeks) and came home drunk. He left his usually password protected cell on the counter and went to bed. Something compelled me to grab it right then while it was still unlocked. I had never even tried to access his phone before then. It hadn't occurred to me. I found start to finish emails showing how his relationship with her started, them quoting poetry to each other, her mentioning how she hoped MY children someday would understand how much she loved him and would love them, too, to design plans for an apartment together.
My life hasn't been the same since and that kind of betrayal causes never ending reverberations affecting not just the spouse but the children as well. Good luck out there. The cliche indicators of an affair are cliches because they are so common & true in real life. They were almost all there in my husband's case but hindsight is 20-20. Trust but verify, ladies. Even the last guy you might imagine cheating, even the guy who always makes a point of saying that men who cheat are despicable and have no honor, is capable of being the same one who will stab you in the back.
Knowing my ex as I do, I have no doubt that had I not found this proof of his affair, he would have never admitted to it and just pretended he met his wh0re after our marriage broke down. He was and probably still is a dedicated gaslighter and whoknows what else he got up to over the years when friends would actually joke (and he would laugh heartily) that he could have a whole other family out there, given how much he was gone...
SVMJSF9034Cheating wounds the person who trusted you with their heart. And that says far more about the cheater than the one who was betrayed.
Knmirv38Questioning your own worth is a hard thing to contend with. You also begin to wonder if your perception of others is valid at all.
Anonymoususer411235I moved across the world to Colorado because my best friend invited me too. I met a man there and fell in love. She was jealous of that love and constantly tried to tell me he wasn't good enough, years after I married him I found years worth of receipts of her and him. They hid it by emailing instead of texting. My best friend had been sleeping with my husband. She was there for me when I left my abusive ex. She actually witnessed the abuse and helped me by offering me the chance to move with her across the states. She was there when I met my future husband.
She was there when we got married. She was there when I had my twins. The betrayal was the worst I have ever experienced and because of it I don't have any close friends anymore because I'm terrified to trust someone like that again. it's been 10 years.
