“He could care less about me having company. Hell, if anything he probably wishes that y’all would’ve stayed being that he wasn’t trying to be bothered with me.”
“Why you say that? Girl, what happened?”
“Long story short, he basically said I smother him.”
“How so?”
“Because I wanted us to chill together, and he didn’t feel like being bothered with me. Then I called Shane and told him what happened and his ass gon’ say I should loosen my grip and alluded to me being too clingy with Justin. He basically said I was at risk for turning J off from me and that I was being too emotional. Do you think that I’m being too emotional?”
“I’m just confused. I’m still stuck on the whole smothering thing. Why does Justin feel smothered? And PLEASE don’t get me started on Shane’s dramatic ass. He has a lot of nerve calling someone emotional with his over-the-top emotional ass! I’m just saying.”
“Don’t start. I didn’t call for this to turn into a Shane bashing convo.”
“That’s why I say, that’s your friend ‘cause whew, chile!”
“Anyway, sissy, I don’t even know why Justin would say that to me ‘cause we barely been hangin’ out with each other since I’ve been back to work. I guess I just expected that on his off days he would want to spend time with me, but that hasn’t been the case. Shane is saying that it’s just been a week and I need to chill out.”
“Can I be honest with you and you not get offended?”
“Of course, you can.”
“It has only been a week and y’all have been with each other day in and day out and every day before that, so just give it some time. You know how men can be, especially Justin who likes to hang, kick it, and play the game with his friends. I get how you’re feeling. I wouldn’t go so far as to say you’re being emotional, clingy, smothering, and whatever else was said, but there is nothing wrong with giving him a little space. If he talkin’ about you crowding him then back up a lil. I think that’s just his way of saying he needs a little personal time is all. Honestly, there is nothing wrong with that. Now if he comes to you saying he needs days, weeks, or months to himself, that’s a different story. But a few hours or so here and there is nothing wrong with that.”
“I hear you, sis. So, you don’t think I have anything to be worried about then?”
“Anything to worry about like what?”
“Like him cheating or wanting to spend time with another female other than me?”
“Sissy, are you serious! Nah, that man ain’t messin’ around on you. He’s just being a man. It’s only been a week. Now, if he continues to act distant as you say, then I’d say it’s time to start panicking.”
“That’s true. I see your point.”
“So, where is Mr. Lover Man at now?”
“He left and that’s another thing. When I asked him where he was going, he just said ‘out’. I know he ain’t goin’ to Tate’s because you and Tate about to go out, so where else could he have gone?”
“Ain’t no tellin’. I don’t know, but Tate’s not his only friend so don’t put too much on that. I say, fix yourself some more of that good ass sangria you made for me and your boy, have a glass ortwo, or three and just chill and try to relax. Enjoy the time you have to yourself.”
“You right. Thanks so much for calming me down. Well, I won’t hold up much more of your time. I would hate to be the reason you not ready for your date. You know how time is your worst enemy and all.” I laughed, feeling much better than I did when I was talking to Shane.
“Oh girl, you not holdin’ me up at all. Any time you need to talk, you know I’m here for you. I think most times you’d rather talk to Shane instead of me ‘cause I keep it a little too real.”
“You right about that, but today, Shane kinda had me feeling some type of way.”
“I have to side with him this time to a certain extent though. His delivery was off, but I wouldn’t expect anything different from Shane’s ass. But, the gist of what he was saying I could totally understand. I do think you need to give Justin just a little space because men can be funny acting with stuff like that. Other than that, I understand why you’re nervous, but you knew how he was before y’all got married, and marrying a man doesn’t change their ways. If anything, they become way more comfortable than they were before, but I don’t think that’s the case with Justin. Don’t worry yourself, sissy, y’all straight.”
“Okay, I won’t. I guess you sayin’ that I should ease up is confirmation since you, Justin, and Shane are all basically saying the same thing.”
“Welp, then it’s confirmation then.”
“Enjoy your date. I can’t wait to hear all about it in the morning.”
“You know I’ll let you know all about it. Talk to you in the morning. Love you.”
Hanging up with Dawn, I couldn’t help but to now feel bad because maybe they were right. Maybe I was being a bit extra with Justin. No wonder he snapped and left out to get some air.I just didn’t know why I continued to have a feeling in the pit of my stomach that Justin’s being distant was something that I should’ve been concerned about. Now that I thought more about it, I was probably just having flashbacks from when things were really bad between us.
Even then, I’d suspected that he was cheating only to find out that whenever he said he was with Tate that was exactly where he was. Shane and Dawn were right. I knew before I married Justin that he liked to hang out, but I married him anyway. So, I was going to have to do my best to ease up off of him a little and hopefully, the uncomfortable feeling in the pit of my stomach would eventually go away.
